Perception is Reality! - Confidence Tips

There's a crazy thing that happens whenever you speak outloud to a group of people, or when you're dressed nice and walking around like you own the place, or when you smile at someone from your jalopy. And yes, this thing also happens when you have shit tons of money, and people know about said tons.

This thing that happens is conveyance of confidence! That rolls off the tongue like week-old sushi, don't it?

So here's the deal: if no one can see or hear that you're confident, then no one will know that you're confident.

This is commonly known as:

Perception is Reality

See, when people are all braggadocious and flashy and driving bad ass cars, they are showing the world, "Hey, look at me! I am confident! I had the big balls to go out and grab this up! I am a catch! You can have this, too!"

Don't buy it? Look at the expression on the guy next to you in the Porsche. Or watch the frat boy call across Chili's to a buddy of his. Or, at the shady gas station, observe the guy in saggin' pants and fake earrings approach a random car and sell a homemade CD.

In contrast, look how the shaky girl reads Harry Potter novels and never talks to anyone at her school. Try to find an inkling of the long-lost spark in the wino's eye (crackheads are different - don't look em in the eye, they have retard strength). Also, watch, as the kid with the slumped shoulders doesn't get a second glance from the 25-year old girls on their lunch break at the mall.

The point here is that what you exude, is true. OK, I made that up off the top of the head, but it means that people believe what they see and hear, and don't have the time to stop and wonder about how you hide your millions inside a dusty trenchcoat. They are too busy trying to get the latest such-and-such, and they have no patience when they have to guess.

Give Them What They Want

People are always looking for something. They have goals, aspirations. You are what stands between them, and what they want. So, why not give it to them? I don't mean punch them in the nose. I mean, be what they are looking for.

You could be the big flashy thing that makes their crew shine brighter. You could be the money-maker that everyone wants to learn from. You could be the lean, mean, sex devil that everyone envies and wants to be like. Mostly, people want to be great people. You can show them how to do that, can't you?

But How Am I Great?

Clarance, I'm just an ordinary person, you say to me! Well, so is everyone else, I answer you! The difference between you and Febrizio is that he has been trained to know what to build, and you were taught that life will run its course, and God has a plan for you.

Yes, once again, it's the ol' "Do Something" yarn. BE GREAT. Pick something you like. DO IT. BE GOOD AT IT. Your day shouldn't consist of "going to work and then going home and watching a whole season of True Blood". Figure out how to get some money. Throw some parties. Cook some food. Play some basketball. But don't give up! Suck at first, who cares!? Get better, and over time, you will be great. You think people just come out of the womb crossin' over fools? It takes practice. While you are probably not children that are reading my blog, you will have to start remembering what it is like to be a child. Say stupid shit. Do stupid shit. But love saying and doing them. As a child, you don't really worry about getting laughed at (unless you're bound by Eternal Christian Shame, as I am), so you just get up and do it again. You must be that person.

How Your Religious Upbringing Made You The Most Anxious Person in the World

By Jesus Christ

Thou shalt not steal. Thou shalt not kill.

Pretty straightforward. These simple rules do their part in holding together the fabric of society, don't they? In most places, yeah. In some places - not so much. But the thought is there, and there's something to be said for that.

With that out of the way - let's talk about your loyalty and resolve of your family to the church - and all the little neurotic extra commandments you might have gotten in your household growing up.

Such gems as: Thou shalt not dance. Thou shalt not get naked in front of anyone. Thou shalt not swear. Thou shalt not treat school like a Fashion Show. Thou shalt not talk to strangers. Thou shalt not draw attention to thyself.

Sounds like the South.

These aren't explicitly said, but good ol' Mom or Dad might be transferring these onto you with little phrases like, "I don't think that hanging out with that cute girl is a good idea - she doesn't go to church", or "Jesus was just a carpenter, and he was the greatest man that ever existed!" (What 'wood' Jesus do - that's a t-shirt waiting to happen), or,"You know, the people of Sodom and Gomorrah liked to dance, and they turned to salt!" You get enough of those when you're 10 years old, combined with blocking contact with kids that don't fit the bill, you're living in a fantasy world of woman-headed griffons with scorpion tails, water turning into wine that you can't drink, and 40 year-old virgins.

Now, this is based on my own experiences, and I'm sure there are semi-healthy religious families. But some of the most neurotic people I've ever met were Christians in the South (of America, to my African readers, but you may agree). There's a lot of control involved. A lot of the "it has to be this way" mentality. A lot of looking down on, a lot of frowning upon, a lot of conformity. I guess conformity is an OK thing, if you live in a society where that's the normal thing. But it's neutralizing in America (and a lot of other places - I'm looking at you, England), especially if you want to be confident around girls :)

One of the most damaging things to believe in is that "The meek shall inherit the Earth."

This sounds great on paper! Nothing more fulfilling than to know that as long as you sit down, shut up, and get your WORK done, then you will live happily ever after. Now, I know that there are other things implied in this phrase (like, your meek ass probably won't be around to see the meek inherit the Earth), but the effect of believing this nonsense is immediate. People can be all around you, clambering for attention, arguing for what they want, talking to random people and having a great time, while you sit smugly knowing that it is all temporary - your legacy will someday be inheriting ALL of it!

Here's something that just popped into my head while I was writing this:

If you're not supposed to want material things, not supposed to want to have sex, not supposed to be charming or flashy or powerful -

- then what the hell are you gonna do when you inherit the Earth??

Or does the phrase mean that someday you'll get your big reward? If that's the case, then why aren't you getting it now, before your old ass regrets it? Especially when it's all attainable!

That was a tangent, but it's relevant. My point is that religion causes anxiety (or certain religions, like the Western ones), and although the intentions are good, they are damaging when they are put in a commercial context.

Hmmm... religion in a commercial context - sounds interesting....